Just like the seed of a plant needs water, sun, and air to thrive, a child’s self-esteem develops in a positive way when it has all of the necessary things in its life. The significant people in a child’s life play an important role in how a child views himself. If a child grows up in an environment where don’t appreciate him, he will think very badly of himself. On the other hand, if a child grows up in an environment where people encourage him with love and security, that child will have the confidence necessary to help him with many of the challenges that are faced in life.
As parents,we are in an ideal position to help our children to obtain a positive self-esteem. In our everyday lives, we can encourage our children simply by doing the following:
-Find positive activitities that your child is doing and comment on them in a positive way. For example, if your child is sharing with his sister, say “I like the way you are sharing with your sister. You are an excellent big brother.”
-When your child makes a mistake or has an accident, instead of criticizing him for his mistake, use this moment as a time for him to learn and grow. For example, when your daughter spills some milk, say in a calm voice, “It’s okay. We all have accidents once in a while. Just get a rag and clean it up really well.”
-Help your child discover his gifts. For example, if he isn’t picked for the basketball team, tell him “I was never able to play basketball to save my life. But, I know you have a voice more beautiful than the birds.”
-Surprise him with praises when he least expects it. For example, write him a note saying, “I think you are magnificent” and place it beside his toothbrush or in his bookbag.